Monday, December 1, 2014

Some Confessions of being a Psych Major

My Y1S1 is really coming to an end, on this coming Thursday. That is when I will be sitting for my last paper of the semester. And I’m done with the very first semester of my degree.

You know, I was like “Wtf, there goes my first semester.” In a blink of an eye, it just ended like that. And then I realized that I really need to enjoy my remaining semesters, join more activities so that I don’t end up graduating with nothing to talk about on my Uni life. Even though I’ve involved myself in certain activities this sem, somehow I felt like I haven’t full stretched my abilities to the fullest. More committee work hunting should be done I guess.

I am indeed really busy for the past few weeks, and upon handling my very last assignment for the semester on 24/10/14, I felt immediate relieve. Now, just fingers cross that I will pass the assignment so I don’t have to retake it next semester. Last week was the most stressful week, with that assignment accompanied by two heavy reading load subjects’ finals. And now I’m procrastinating from revising for my last paper that is going to be on this Thurs, but I think this procrastination is worth it lololol.

Recently I came across one pic on FB.  And it was something like
 “Being a psychology major, you find yourself very hard to be angry at someone, because you know the causes behind their behaviors” 
Not the exact quote, but from what I remember it’s something like that. And I felt into deep thought. Yes, indeed. Psychology is about studying mental processes and human behaviors. And for every single human behavior, there has to be a cause to why they had chosen to react in such a way. And what makes psych different from other majors is that, we know the reason why. And we couldn’t really blame the person from behaving in such a way because it is what their growing up environment, parenting they received, and influence from their peers etc. that has molded them in such a way. We have to accept individual differences, because no one will have the exact same thinking as you, nor you will find someone who will behave the same as you.

And I do find myself using this to rationalize my angry thoughts at time. For example, when a kid comes to you and says that you’re fat and ugly. As a psych major, the first thing that crosses my mind is, “poor child, what an environment they are growing up from.” Instead of focusing to be angry on the child, you think of what could have cause the child to behave in such a way. And you forgive for what they have done. And btw, the example given is not a real life event thou, it’s really an example.

I guess this is the good and the bad of being a psych major? Hahaha on one side you understand the reason why to a certain behavior portrayed by another person, which makes the society generalizes us to be “Psychics a.k.a Mind Reader”, just because they haven’t thought of one level deeper. Probably it’s because they are not exposed to such knowledge yet so I don’t really blame society for having such stigma about Psychology graduates. On the bad side, your angry rights are to be cut down to perhaps zero level? Because you couldn’t really find a reason to be angry, you automatically rationalize them with the analyses of their behavior.

However there’s one thing that I still couldn’t find myself adapting into even though I’m a Psych major. I tend to be oversensitive on other’s body language when they are talking to me. Because I know what are the possible body language others will portray when they are interested in engaging in the conversation with you. Or what is the possible body language that signals that they are not interested in talking with you. 

At times when I’ve spotted body language of others signaling that they don’t really wanna talk to me, they just talk to me for the sake of talking, I take it personally at times. I’ve been self-reflecting on myself thou because of this, does this happens because I am an A-hole to others? Or simply they prefer talking to someone who is more interesting? Probably I should consider closing my eyes when I am in a convo so I don’t have to observe anything lololol. Or probably the knowledge that I have gotten from all the books on body-language is misleading and only applies for a small fraction of people in the society?

Still, you know what. Screw it lol. I couldn’t get everyone to like me and engage in a convo that they are not willing to, and that’s a fact. And soon I have come to this realization that “it’s okay, cause I know who are the ones who really wanna talk to me because they want to, and those for an insincere convo.” Which makes me treasure the sincere ones, and focus on building more in-depth friendship with them.  People come and go in your life, factdat ;)

How wonderful would it be if I am able to produce the same amount of words that I’ve typed on this blogpost within 20 minutes for my assignments.
Hmm, enough food for thought I guess? Gotta start fighting for the final paper again. ciauzzzzz


Suetneeeee.

P/s. Its finally December! *throw confettis* 

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